Landed on justice on the fun wheel!

Well yesterday was one for the books. Numerous texts, calls from my better half. I finally got a break to call back. NS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The judge ruled completely in our favor on all counts and gave us what we needed to start building the broken pieces of our life. Those who know us know the pain and details.
I will hold my breathe until the next round of paperwork arrives giving permissions to proceed with needed health care and other benefits.
But its been an exhausting, demoralizing 3.5 years...losing belief in people and systems; abuse, neglect and then lo...the phone rings in the morning followed by a judge's diatribe in a large yellow envelope at noon.
The result incredulous. We were hoping for a win on a couple points, but everything our masterful lawyer and his excellent assistant said, is now so.
I have alot of anger and want to address is productively.
Got to head for work, so more soon!
TYJ!!!!

i added adsense to the blog

i want to contribute to my daughter's well being by supporting google. a few ads here and there wont hurt a thing.

bacon with eggs

why not?

WTF Wednesday with extra whip

WTF WEDNESDAY WITH EXTRA WHIP

Excellent coworker has a weekly Wednesday feature on her blog called WTF. I steal from her today.This was my day:
1) We are now out the $ paypal says they froze with refund 10-14 days. Promises lightly made-we didnt need to pay bills with the grand anyway. We opened a new acct but it will take until Friday for the check I wrote from my former personal acct to clear. No problem. No money till Friday except the credit card.
2) State calls. The ice queen (IQ) states I needed to be off work 11 more consecutive days to be paid; no payment from work, so note to self: dont get hurt unless you plan on being off work 14 consecutive work days. I read her comment on the state site that says she sympathizes with me. This is the same one horse outfit we have been in litigation with for four years for James. If thats sympathy I'm Joan Crawford with a Mother of the Year trophy in my hand!!!!
3) IQ says the PA at the ER failed to note I was not injured on the job altho the nurse did; they will have to send the bill back to the hospital for discussion.
4) IQ says I failed to document in greater detail how the spider ran across my keyboard and up my arm. Note to self: more detail.
5) Engineer at work asks me at lunch today while I am escorting our two guest speakers to their engagement, if I have the plaque ordered for his presentation tomorrow. And can he make last minute more changes on the poster that he ordered yest for today. Note to engineer: you have admin staff, I dont work for you or do plaque ordering and no changes none on your poster.
6) Woman at frame shop is senile. I have visited with her three times and gotten written quotes and she says each time the quote is not right when the contracting person calls to pay for the order. Note to self: go to new frame shop on Thursday.
7) Daughter did not get her job. Dont know why.
8) Went to daughter's final school conference and of course, in keeping with WTF-ness, they started and finished without me. I did learn the head football coach is flunking daughter in a PE class she needs to graduate. I wrote him yest and said hey, she has mandatory appts with a reconstructive ortho specialist and we have to go when he says we go. Stay tuned.
9) I went to the school superintendent's office and took it all out on him. I said I want the school to honor the agreement that we made three years ago. Daughter will take an extra year of math in lieu of passing the math WASL (federally mandated, state given standards test). She missed passing twice by a few points. Enuf is enough especially when the WASL will not be in existance after this year.
Welcome to my WTF Wednesday!
See photo above, I am screaming.

hacked part II

So paypal didnt stop all the hacker's request for money and some more came out of our acct. Numerous trips to the bank and hopefully now....the bad people are cut off. We now need to file complaints with the attorney general in the state this so called company is licensed with.
Its a day time nightmare because it doesnt end when you wake up.
Hope we have closed it down and dinero will be returned to us.
Love the part where we call paypal and our call center rep has an Indian accent so hard to understand...

Hump day at work and I just want it to be going home on Friday. Its not a stressful week just action packed.

Finished a complete book last night. That is restorative. I love Italian detective Salvo Montalbano stories. The best I ever read! My dream is to own the whole series. Thanks Richard for sharing!

Lots to do so off with me!
TTFN

Hacked

Received text from new hubby yest am that our accounts had been hacked and $ taken but then restored by the fraud departments of paypal and the bank. He spent the day closing and reopening accounts, changing passwords, freezing, unfreezing money. I have to give credit to the fraud departments for their vigilance. The likely suspect at this time, comes from trojans which were encased inside three MP3 downloads. Wow.... you would think our overpriced anti virus protection would have caught these during the downloads.
I always do banking in the early am and yest. for reasons I can't remember, didnt. And he never does, but did....grateful....for the dyslexic change of duties.
In other news daughter had a second and from sounds, positive interview with Amazon.com She also has an assessment test she scheduled at her 09 community college. Wow... my heart just about stopped yest.
As for moi, with the help or should I because of excellent Mrs D co-worker, the stress free week at work is coming along nicely. I am determined to stay in the stress free zone all week.
Post-spider report: coming along nicely. Alot of paperwork generated because of it. Was told yest they will be spraying our building. That's good. I dejunked my area in case there was a habitat for the pests...and am hyper vigilant now...but still aint scared of no spider.
more soon...ttfn

how to live a balanced life in one day

There is never ever enough hours to get all the shoulds and wants done. Not even.
Have a new Det Montablano book that needs reading; a garage to clean, flower beds to weed, yard to work on; garden seeds to plant, repainting to do and more. Yet, I want the Sunday sunshine and the book and the excellent joe to sip on.
We are going to take a ride out to what is called gravity hill- a true phenomenon where you start up a hill, put your car in neutral and the car is pulled up the hill about 10 miles an hour. It never fails. Its so cool.
But mostly to take a ride...
More soon.
Miss my big kids and grands.

Bite, better

After a glorious 77 degrees yest, its back to dark skies and rain.
Bite is feeling a bit better today.
WISH I HAD GOTTEN SPID-Y POWERS! I feel cheated! Just horse pills, an L&I claim and a sore right side.
Weeded a little yest using my left hand and side; slow going but at least i was under the sun and going.

Bit, still

Right side and arm hurt to touch or move. Crazy stuff!

still bit

this is weird stuff.
sad about the untimely death of 45 yr old natasha richardson.
more when i feel better.

Bite

I never realized before how the word bite is an onomonopia...but with one minute before I go out the door to work, I must not digress! A quick word on bites.
A fast little spider ran across my desk late yest afternoon at work. It skittered then when I tried to nail it with a rolled up stack of papers, it went up my blouse sleeve, I felt a quick bite and it fell out dead after I was shaking and doing the hula in my cubicle hitting myself with the paper. (Yes, this is my real life and its really how it happened.
Several hours later I am at the pizza joint for my stepdaughters's 29th St Paddy's day bd meal watching her boys don false beards and mustaches (they are 12 and 7) and feel immense swelling, pain on my right side.
I ended up in the 20 mile away ER for an efficient hour where they declared me spider bit and gave me horse pills to take for seven days and benadryl. Lots of instructions on side effects of spider bites. Today, it hurts like a mother.
Don't that Bite?

Overdue and quite lovely thank you!

We gott 'er done! First photo, youngest daughter-my best girl, self, new hubby and daughter's friend who stood in so graciously as best man when ours (groom's brother) mysteriously didn't show.It was her first gig as best man!

In the second photo my nearly-husband is laughing as I ask the preacher to repeat the will you question. I totally whited out and couldn't remember a thing he said!

Well blogging means you never have to say you are sorry since you are keeping the blog fresh and timely, in its nature. Wrong. Not sorry, but feel remiss and miss writing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's 6:30 a.m. and I just woke daughter and friend for school although they told me multiple times, no school until noon today mom because of WASL...well, that was last night!
The wedding deed was a sweet one.
It was an adventure I always promised myself to try one day; the kind where I put my hands down, zip my lips and just go with the moment that I had no hand in planning.
James and I married Sat. in a simple, sweet ceremony done by a stranger whom we gave no instruction other than Getter done!
I had no perfect dress (the one and sole dress I loved in the dress market near home was not quite a good fit and no time for alterations). I wore what I wore to work; I got a pretty for the hair, found my heels I never wore and polished them; tried to get a good night's sleep and hope for the best.
In the morning to pass time since we were scheduled for high noon, I got to watch The Reader, the Kate Winslet Oscar movie. Very powerful. I am sure my younger self as a bride couldnot sit down with a cup of joe and watch a full length movie. I was a nervous wreck waiting but this movie was the perfect foil for nerves. I thought while watching the movie, how middle age love and romance bear zero resemblance to young love or first love.
In this case, we had rings sitting in the drawer for years; and tho we both have gained a few pounds the beautiful white gold bands fit nicely; check.
Clothes, check; hair check. James' brother didn't show for mysterious reasons to be best man, so we asked our daughter's friend of a lifetime and lo, James had an 18 year beautiful girl for his best man; my youngest was my best girl--and both girls were sensational in their role. The flower order was incomplete so we had to wait for the planner to run down the street for a quick bridesmaid bouquet.
I was sheer nerves for unknown and still unknown reasons. We laughed alot during the ceremony I know; I couldn't remember what the preacher was asking me, was it a yes question or an I will or should I nod my head; I asked him to repeat the question.
In 10 minutes we had a bride and groom.
We followed the little ceremony with fantastic visit with friends and girls at a 50s diner; the groom and girls had their photos taken with Elvis; the food was amazing and my side hurt from laughing and my mouth hurt from smiling.
In all of this I found something inside me that made marrying my comrade, co-alpha dog-sparring partner, best friend even better: I found I could live without control or trappings.
There was actually about three of the 100 elements at play during the wedding I liked and yet I purely loved it all. The spontaniety of the event did not tarnish or diminish the moment in the least; our families largely had other plans and told us to stop by later. No problem. Not fancy clothes or fancier trappings or more orchestration or more of anything would have made our moment any sweeter, lovelier or better in any way. Becoming a married couple has nothing to do with any of those things. It's the who and the why. I just got on the wedding merry go round and had one of the best adventures of my life--because everything was in alignment, the outer trappings meant nothing--hallelujah! A big stick I never thought I could jump over...
We had two sets of friends who chose to make the drive and spend our moment in time with us; our kids who could, did too. We will have a reception soon and invite those who can to come have more celebration.
My groom and I both still feel a bit bothered by having a piece of metal on our hands. We both think I want to take this off (since neither of us wear rings on a regular basis) and then go, oh yah...this is my wedding ring. It's funny and sweet.
He planned it, I attended willingly and then when I got up this morning, he set our official wedding photo to the screensaver on his computer (this one). There's nothing more to say, except lucky us and happy us and may we always feel just like this!

Weird vibes

Thngs are OK but dont make sense; snowing in March; sleeping hard but tired; should be happy at granddaughter's 5th birthday but sad because she and her sister are not living in tri-cities aymore...long story. Work, can't make progress...too many overlapping deadlines...
More soon!

brains so full

I need a pinky to carry my brain. It's so full of stuff both minor, medium and major I can't think clearly. It's surprising I am remembering most of my to do list items.
Before I go any further I want to say thanks to MrsD my coworker for returning to her hot seat at work today; she turned the ebb tide which was getting ugly and dark early part of the work week. We have undertoad dynamics at work and it will all be fine later, but for now, I only want the work week to be over.
Information about work activities, health issues, doctor and lawyer appts, graduation, aging parents, maturing children, taxes, financial aid for college, upgrading the house, sinking stock market account,bad wardrobe, neglected greying hair, rugs that need cleaned, cards that need sent, some have Santa on them, emails not written to friends--hi Richard, will write soon I really will!!-- and much much more.
I am weeks overdue to the library, but I did find my seeds for the garden today while looking for something else.
My college roommate Gina said laughingly when the time comes we will do a Thelma and Louise. I said i would love too but could we make it a mud puddle since i am afraid of heights.
Cat woke me up at 2 am playing with the shutters....so tired on top of it.
I am living for June 1.

full of happy