Saturday, November 29, 2008

Please send happiness sprinkles


*to your left, happiness sprinkles*
Insomnia won last night. It's alright no work for two more days. Daughter is angsting about her job (bad boss) and I do not blame her. There are many other place to work so I suggested she spend some of her weekend putting in appearances and applications.
Got a good visit in yest. with my nephew and with a former writer who is a newlywed, new stepmom and in college. Nephew is good...long time since I spent time talking with him. Writer friend is in a very good groove. We also had another instance of child neglect (daughter's friend)--this time the parents left him alone for 2 days in 20 degree weather, no heat. I reported it and he came to our place for food and warmth.
I missed my long awaited lunch with MrsDomestic, and I am sorry for that. All issues: angsting daughter, child neglect and unexpected visitation took place at the same time. I realized I dont multitask very well anymore. MrsD and I have a foodie blog idea that needs launched. My bad and overwhelmed at the same time.
I cleaned the bedroom yest and the closet and found stashed presents from last year never given (I couldnt find them when I was loading up the tree!) so I am ahead this year if I dont forget the new hiding spot. I believe youngest daughter and I will be gathering xmas decor and putting it up Sunday. Just because we can, and it makes us feel happy.
Finally sat down and was able to read some NYer magazines that my friend Richard has been sending me for nearly a decade. THANKYOU Richard. The magazines make me so happy. I couldnt imagine how much I have learned in the last 10 years from opening them up and sitting still.
James is not feeling well so he is quiet and sleeping alot. Back injuries are horrible. The clock is ticking on the decision we are expecting from the judge. It would be great to be done before the end of the year. I hope it lifts his spirits. I loaded up my Turbo Tax for the work year 2008. Ready to get the worst over with come Jan. 1. Also will be doing youngest first FAFSA college financial aid form...the same day.
Enough. Happiness sprinkle some dust our way!




Friday, November 28, 2008

Dont talk while giving directions


Dinner turned out perfect! We packed it into two cars and left for TriCities to enjoy the meal with kids and 7 grands. I gave daughter the worst driving advice ever and we ended up in the middle of nowhere for 72 minutes (we both thought, so this is what an alien abduction must feel like!) We got to the house well over an hour after dinner was served. We had the condiments, rolls, pies, and more with us. Oh I could have been embarrassed, but instead we was just starved! Ate and played a long time with the kids. They played wear the new stocking hat gramma brought and see who can look goofiest; brush grandma's hair until it stands straight up; wear grandma's bracelet and glasses and grandpa's baseball hat and look ridiculous; blow the feather's off your nose and pass the baby who is 7 mos and very liberal about whose lap he sits on. We then stopped by my brother, sis in laws and visited with them and my three nephews, one I havent seen for a couple years. He is 33 and living in Boise.
Now I am debating whether to join the herd and stampede the after TG sales in an hour. I am not moved today to stand in line so might mosy around later. The joe is calling! TTFN

Thursday, November 27, 2008

Game On! Turkey to follow!

It's 5:30 a.m. and everything is en process. Bird will go in at 8:15....I did not brine it as I didnot realize its a 24 hour process. Next time.
Sweet potatoes are cooking; raspberry pie is finishing up...celery is soaking in the sink and the laundry is going...next shower then a fast run to the store for more celery and a few other items. Our little mini fridge in the back froze the extra celery I had stashed there...and it's game on! Woohoo!
Happy Thanksgiving! Hope I can catch a snippet of the Macy's parade. I went to the thrift store yest. and purchased 7 stocking hats, washed them this am. Want to fill them with something to take to the grands today...might have to slip by the $1 store....
TTFN

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Unexpected Reason for Thanks!


Unexpected news! The second half of my better half's court date was cancelled yest. by his former employer who opted out of opposing him any further for his L&I benefits. They cancelled all their depositions of doctors, staff etc. Along with that, the second half of the very critical deposition by better half's primary doctor went very well, our attorney also reported. What this all means is the evidence is in, and in the hands of the judge.
At this point we are praying for justice to be served and James to receive his rightful post-injury medical care and fiscal benefits. Continued good thoughts and prayers are appreciated. This nightmare began three years ago next Monday. When the judge's decision is made, it's a huge step. No matter what the judge decides, my better half still has a broken body, but this will greatly restore his spirit if the right thing happens. Thanks for hanging in with us!!! Your support has been appreciated and needed more than you can imagine.
Happy Thanksgiving everyone! We xoxoxo you all!

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Let no worthy eaterie go unloved

My adorable daughter and her adorable ECV. I love this photo of them.
I haven't felt like my happy self in a muchisimo long time.
But this am I got up at 4, started the coffee, uploaded TurboTax, imported tax info, printed off daughter's college application, did some laundry before 5. That means I am feeling better.
It is Thanksgiving week and I know in so many respects I am among the blessed. I try to keep that in mind when and while I am in the midst of nonstop whining.
James seems to be tracking better with his lists of things to do. I know we all need a purpose and he is happiest in a project mode. There are many things he cannot do any more and so many that he can. I loved talking to him on the phone yest when he was doing leaf disposal with oldest grandson. There was a tone to his voice that said I am feeling so happy.
Now that the deep house cleaning is off, my happy seems to be back on. I have been buying and hoarding holiday things to sell on Ebay. Now is the time to start taking pictures of them and getting them listed. The extra dinero always comes in handy this time of year.
On a current hardline with youngest daughter who continuously is breaking her curfew. She and her latest beau have been working through issues and she lets that dominate her life and common sense. Last night I could feel her hate and loathing but it doesn't matter. She is almost 18 and has some maturing to do yet. I love her too much to let her be unsafe or frivolous about her future.
Work was better yest. I accomplished a couple of long-standing items. Yah.
I am starting to make the mental cooking timeline in my head. I cant wait to start the TG cooking process.
I am also looking forward to sitting down with MrsDomestic my lovely co-worker and sorting out and brainstorming our foodie blog that will be coming to a blog near you. We both enjoy dining out and finding great eateries...so this is our answer to letting no eating venue go unloved.
TTFN















Monday, November 24, 2008

Plans for a 3DayRay & Beyond

Happiness is everything on your TG shopping list to feed 15 and you don't break a hundred dollar bill *Thank you WinCo!. The other happiness is moving the feed to your kids in law's house so they dont have to load up their five kids in 2 cars and try to herd them in someone else's house all day. My happiness from this is--although I love a houseful--I will not need to do any more deep or otherwise cleaning with the venue change. We still get to massively cook and make the dishes we love so we have leftovers, make the messes and have the right TG day smells in the houses, but we will just transport it to the TriCities instead of the crowd coming our way. It's all good!
My other happiness is planning for our next long road trip vacation which will be the day after youngest child is tucked away for her first day of college. We decided we will rent a car (see below for dream rental car) and drive the following route next year:
Vegas, Beatty NV, New Mexico, thru Texas, Branson, New Orleans (NO was the location of 10 days spent to celebrate my 40th BD followed by 3 days in NV, complete with one 5 minute segment of doing the twist on stage with Chubby Checker and me fitting into a white mini skirt sporting a tan--those were the days) then loop home. The dream is to be gone 2 weeks. Don't know if that is possible in any respect, but now I have something to wish and plan for. If only CBS would hire me to replace the late Charles Kuralt, life would be perfect (and no, I have not yet asked but I should--I would be good).
Don't try the Starbucks Thanksgiving blend coffee. It's not worthy of anyone's money. I cant wait until its gone so I can buy another bag of French Roast.
I actually sat down and read from a book and some magazines last night. Its been more than a month since I was relaxed enough to do it. It's a good sign.
And last but not least, we hit a couple thrift stores yest with great results. I felt so much better being back in the discount shopping circuit again. We had not gone out for more than a month and a half with James feeling bad. Many a treasure, some new for Xmas, came home with me!
Here's to a 3 Day Ray workweek!
TTFN

Sunday, November 23, 2008

Stella channeling rosedebbierose

This precious image is from a visit to my James' elementary school's100th birthday last year. We toured the immaculately kept brick and oak school and look what we found? His signature checking out this Daniel Boone book. He was 12 at the time. This is why preservation of our history is so critical. This is irreplacable. In my home town, the unspeakable is happening right now, they are tearing down one of my grade schools brick by brick, Hate is a strong word but the small part of me is feeling some pretty strong feelings for our red neck, narrow minded belligerant school board for not finding a way to preserve the irreplacable.
Yesterday I gave myself one complete day off. It didnt happen without some resistance from the reader of Daniel Boone who wanted my company and assistance. But after a somewhat tense conversation that I wish was not necessary, we each kept our plans. I hope he enjoyed his day as much as I did. I got blonded, hair cut,cleaned the car, window shopped at the thrift stores, did household chores of my choosing; took in Life of Bees. The reader of Daniel Boone and I got out and walked for awhile in the excellent fall sun. It felt good to be in the fresh air. The life of bees, back to the movie, was OK, but book was much much better.
Today most of the angst of work is gone and it will remain so, I predict and hope for a week. Its a 3 day Ray workweek with an early out on Wednesday.
Happy 27th birthday to my MLS's favorite guy, Ethan. I hear an Ethiopean meal was on the slate in SF for his bd meal du jour! Hope it was filled with tasty fabulosity!
Enough! The coffee is calling! Here DebbieDebbieDebbie *why did my dad have to be in love with Debbie Reynolds and name me Debbie? I would have much preferred a name I could gracefully age with like Stella from Streetcar Named Desire or a cool name from prep boarding school like Cocoa, Cookie or even Bets! TTFN!!

Friday, November 21, 2008

Very Bare Threads

Hillary to be Secretary of State - BEST REAL NEWS OF THE WEEK! Her excellent mind put to work!

Its the end of the week. I completely confess to the following:
If I would have had enough time to watch the clock at work this week, I would have. The worst work week of my work life finished 2 hours ago. I finished the week in the most necessary for me, nicest way possible. I asked my boss who is 2000% unconfrontational, for permission to never work again with our trainwrecking colleague. He gave it to me. I have it and therefore, never again will have any type of communal projects with her. Never. Never is a long time but it's my plan for the long term.
Tomorrow Grandpa is doing all the babysitting he volunteered for. His two shifts start at 8:30 am until who knows when then again at 6 at night until midnight. He told both his two adult children he would (thinking we would since we normally do because five kids is the total of grands his son and daughter in law have and 2 adults are needed ) watch kids. I, being an utter shrew and just plain worn out, announced Wed. would not in any form or fashion, would I babysit for anyone for any reason this weekend. I will not be babysitting tomorrow. Hair appt early and then we will see what else I want to do to try to relax and unwind.
Here is the article of articles on a four turkey smackdown....such great reading! http://www.latimes.com/theguide/holiday-guide/la-fo-turkeycontest,0,1075586.story?page=2
I am hoping for something restorative to happen for me. I am down to threads, bare ones and cranky, short tempered and overdue for a time out, I can feel it.












Thursday, November 20, 2008

Tic Tac Me

Kramer Bird, I can relate!
Some days I am the X. Other days I am the O, in the game of Tic Tac Toe. This week, I am trying to figure it out. Too much to recant, but let's say, good health and some quiet would be nice.
My new co-worker I adore; my longer term young co-worker is, I fear a train wreck waiting to happen and I don't want to be near the train. Far away and so I am trying to find ways to get the work done and keep myself separate so my performance and products end up of my design, not under the influence.
I am cracking up listening to all the pundits and talking heads doing speculation and why hasnt he done this yet. 61 days to inaugeration. Let's let the man get on the job. Pundits, please talk about our so lame current Prez who is having a hard time staying busy...lets talk about the "sitting" president. There are lots of stats available to compile from 8 years of grossly mismanaged and long term global misery, pain and suffering.
SOCIALIST! Just wanted to say that. It makes some of our newly minted "GOP" friends and family seize up! Kind of like hollering Bunch! to a herd of sheep. Sheep going running. Try it some time.
Time for the shower and the ongoing game of Xs and Os. Its a balmy 32 degrees. I hear SNOW is in the forecast!
BTW, will be cooking for 15 on TG. I am very, very happy for this. Here birdie birdie!



Sunday, November 16, 2008

Enjoyment is good...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nMuRWRqpQXQ
I went looking for Obama's weekly You Tube chats and found this. I am old by comparison in the workplace, but love the words and idea.

Here is his fireside weekly:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nMuRWRqpQXQ

Saturday, November 15, 2008

Well the evening belonged to the chicken.
Plans made all day to cook up some fine chicken wings and dip them in bleu cheese went suddenly awry when the cook of the house opened up the two freshly purchased bags of chicken wings and the house filled with BAD CHICKEN odor. ohh...so when returning the chicken to the customer service young lady I tried to warn her to not touch the chicken or open the quadruple- wrapped bag too wide. She proceeded to open the bag wide and get it on her hands. I didn't have to say I told you so...ewwww..... so off to daughter's little restaurant for prime rib and garlic shrimp pasta. She is our favorite waitress. The food could have been immensely better. So the chicken won tonight.
Last week was mentally brutal. A friend of daughter's was beat up by his dad. We reported it to the school and DSHS. The friend has battered wife's syndrome and excused the father. The mother-wife did the same. I hope it puts the father on notice now that he has been reported. This is the second friend of daughter's that we have personally seen physically abused. It is beyond disgusting and shocking to me that children are treated like convenient punching bags.
A second tough issue this week was my young co-worker who has no work ethic. She has repeatedly failed to perform her part of critical assignments leaving me to clean up and finish up. It impacted my performance again on Friday. I hope for a resolve. I am too old to work with lazy and undisciplined people and carry their work loads. As much as I enjoy this coworker as a person, she has miles to go on many levels. It forced me to work late and miss a date with my grands. That above all, got under my skin.
Son and his gf are starting to cook at home. Applause all around. Thats a wise move and a great skill.
Daughter let me know how your interview went. I miss you.
Will Hillary be Secretary of State or Supreme Court justice? I vote for either. She is too brilliant to be set aside.
Must go now. Wish it was on a road trip.









Wednesday, November 12, 2008

High times and high winds



It's howling out right now with high winds blowing through our region. It woke me up at 3 a.m. with an earache. I will pay later at work, about mid afternoon to be sure. Son needs to travel home to Portland down the unforgiving Columbia River Gorge, so winds blow yourself away. Daughter congrats on your job interview. I will call u back as soon as i find my phone! MrsDomestic, all sympathy on the great loss of your grandpa.
more soon.



Saturday, November 8, 2008

Hope against Hope


We have a new president-elect who seems to genuinely care about whether Americans are doing well or not. I feel 17 again-full of the same overpowering feelings of hope and possibility--as when I graduated so many thousands of days ago when I campaigned for the late George McGovern. I am pinching myself that we may be living with a thinking, planning, goal oriented compassionate government. And that the United States is on its way to becoming United.
My mother the ardent Republican told me three days post- Obama Tsunami that she is now hoping for the best. That's a great attitude Mom. I think AZ is really agreeing with you!
It's been a huge week in so many ways; court for James, dental work for daughter, a new President; so long to many Republic congressional fixtures; my former reporter MrsDomestic is my neighbor again at work; you can't imagine how lovely it is to look over and see that hardworking, bright newlywed. I feel much less alone on the job now. Grandson's football team won the Grid Kids Superbowl today. I didnt go but James did. I cant tolerate football games of any age or size since I can remember so I dont even try to fake it. College roommate was here with his friend and such a nice breakfast. I felt whole for having my friend of 30 years at the table with me. We had a fantastic Greek dinner last night with a fun young couple in their late 30s-such young energy and so engaged in their small happy life. I loved listening to them. I have books and magazine to read but I cant concentrate so its incessant online reading and online Scrabble. My Portland son (and only son) is coming to see us for a few days Mon-Wed. I cant wait. I miss he and his San Francisco sister...my oldest beautiful daughter so much. Never mind they are heading for 25 and 23.
Another court date in early Dec.
Please let us be done and let it be fair.
I have been beyond tired all week. So it's 6 p.m. and in the nightgown. I did get James Xmas gift today. Now I feel better. It was on sale. Dont think he reads my blog, but its QT cause you never know!
TTFN


Tuesday, November 4, 2008

Why isnt election day a Federal Holiday?

Why isn't election day a Federal Holiday?
Wish I could have helped write this!

Washington Post's endorsement
Barack Obama for President
THE NOMINATING process this year produced two unusually talented and qualified presidential candidates. There are few public figures we have respected more over the years than Sen. John McCain. Yet it is without ambivalence that we endorse Sen. Barack Obama for president.
The choice is made easy in part by Mr. McCain's disappointing campaign, above all his irresponsible selection of a running mate who is not ready to be president. It is made easy in larger part, though, because of our admiration for Mr. Obama and the impressive qualities he has shown during this long race. Yes, we have reservations and concerns, almost inevitably, given Mr. Obama's relatively brief experience in national politics. But we also have enormous hopes.
if Mr. Obama is a man of supple intelligence, with a nuanced grasp of complex issues and evident skill at conciliation and consensus-building. At home, we believe, he would respond to the economic crisis with a healthy respect for markets tempered by justified dismay over rising inequality and an understanding of the need for focused regulation. Abroad, the best evidence suggests that he would seek to maintain U.S. leadership and engagement, continue the fight against terrorists, and wage vigorous diplomacy on behalf of U.S. values and interests. Mr. Obama has the potential to become a great president. Given the enormous problems he would confront from his first day in office, and the damage wrought over the past eight years, we would settle for very good.
The first question, in fact, might be why either man wants the job. Start with two ongoing wars, both far from being won; an unstable, nuclear-armed Pakistan; a resurgent Russia menacing its neighbors; a terrorist-supporting Iran racing toward nuclear status; a roiling Middle East; a rising China seeking its place in the world. Stir in the threat of nuclear or biological terrorism, the burdens of global poverty and disease, and accelerating climate change. Domestically, wages have stagnated while public education is failing a generation of urban, mostly minority children. Now add the possibility of the deepest economic trough since the Great Depression.
Not even his fiercest critics would blame President Bush for all of these problems, and we are far from being his fiercest critic. But for the past eight years, his administration, while pursuing some worthy policies (accountability in education, homeland security, the promotion of freedom abroad), has also championed some stunningly wrongheaded ones (fiscal recklessness, torture, utter disregard for the planet's ecological health) and has acted too often with incompetence, arrogance or both. A McCain presidency would not equal four more years, but outside of his inner circle, Mr. McCain would draw on many of the same policymakers who have brought us to our current state. We believe they have richly earned, and might even benefit from, some years in the political wilderness.
OF COURSE, Mr. Obama offers a great deal more than being not a Republican. There are two sets of issues that matter most in judging these candidacies. The first has to do with restoring and promoting prosperity and sharing its fruits more evenly in a globalizing era that has suppressed wages and heightened inequality. Here the choice is not a close call. Mr. McCain has little interest in economics and no apparent feel for the topic. His principal proposal, doubling down on the Bush tax cuts, would exacerbate the fiscal wreckage and the inequality simultaneously. Mr. Obama's economic plan contains its share of unaffordable promises, but it pushes more in the direction of fairness and fiscal health. Both men have pledged to tackle climate change.
Mr. Obama also understands that the most important single counter to inequality, and the best way to maintain American competitiveness, is improved education, another subject of only modest interest to Mr. McCain. Mr. Obama would focus attention on early education and on helping families so that another generation of poor children doesn't lose out. His budgets would be less likely to squeeze out important programs such as Head Start and Pell grants. Though he has been less definitive than we would like, he supports accountability measures for public schools and providing parents choices by means of charter schools.
A better health-care system also is crucial to bolstering U.S. competitiveness and relieving worker insecurity. Mr. McCain is right to advocate an end to the tax favoritism showed to employer plans. This system works against lower-income people, and Mr. Obama has disparaged the McCain proposal in deceptive ways. But Mr. McCain's health plan doesn't do enough to protect those who cannot afford health insurance. Mr. Obama hopes to steer the country toward universal coverage by charting a course between government mandates and individual choice, though we question whether his plan is affordable or does enough to contain costs.
The next president is apt to have the chance to nominate one or more Supreme Court justices. Given the court's current precarious balance, we think Obama appointees could have a positive impact on issues from detention policy and executive power to privacy protections and civil rights.
Overshadowing all of these policy choices may be the financial crisis and the recession it is likely to spawn. It is almost impossible to predict what policies will be called for by January, but certainly the country will want in its president a combination of nimbleness and steadfastness -- precisely the qualities Mr. Obama has displayed during the past few weeks. When he might have been scoring political points against the incumbent, he instead responsibly urged fellow Democrats in Congress to back Mr. Bush's financial rescue plan. He has surrounded himself with top-notch, experienced, centrist economic advisers -- perhaps the best warranty that, unlike some past presidents of modest experience, Mr. Obama will not ride into town determined to reinvent every policy wheel. Some have disparaged Mr. Obama as too cool, but his unflappability over the past few weeks -- indeed, over two years of campaigning -- strikes us as exactly what Americans might want in their president at a time of great uncertainty.
ON THE SECOND set of issues, having to do with keeping America safe in a dangerous world, it is a closer call. Mr. McCain has deep knowledge and a longstanding commitment to promoting U.S. leadership and values.
But Mr. Obama, as anyone who reads his books can tell, also has a sophisticated understanding of the world and America's place in it. He, too, is committed to maintaining U.S. leadership and sticking up for democratic values, as his recent defense of tiny Georgia makes clear. We hope he would navigate between the amoral realism of some in his party and the counterproductive cocksureness of the current administration, especially in its first term. On most policies, such as the need to go after al-Qaeda, check Iran's nuclear ambitions and fight HIV/AIDS abroad, he differs little from Mr. Bush or Mr. McCain. But he promises defter diplomacy and greater commitment to allies. His team overstates the likelihood that either of those can produce dramatically better results, but both are certainly worth trying.
Mr. Obama's greatest deviation from current policy is also our biggest worry: his insistence on withdrawing U.S. combat troops from Iraq on a fixed timeline. Thanks to the surge that Mr. Obama opposed, it may be feasible to withdraw many troops during his first two years in office. But if it isn't -- and U.S. generals have warned that the hard-won gains of the past 18 months could be lost by a precipitous withdrawal -- we can only hope and assume that Mr. Obama would recognize the strategic importance of success in Iraq and adjust his plans.
We also can only hope that the alarming anti-trade rhetoric we have heard from Mr. Obama during the campaign would give way to the understanding of the benefits of trade reflected in his writings. A silver lining of the financial crisis may be the flexibility it gives Mr. Obama to override some of the interest groups and members of Congress in his own party who oppose open trade, as well as to pursue the entitlement reform that he surely understands is needed.
IT GIVES US no pleasure to oppose Mr. McCain. Over the years, he has been a force for principle and bipartisanship. He fought to recognize Vietnam, though some of his fellow ex-POWs vilified him for it. He stood up for humane immigration reform, though he knew Republican primary voters would punish him for it. He opposed torture and promoted campaign finance reform, a cause that Mr. Obama injured when he broke his promise to accept public financing in the general election campaign. Mr. McCain staked his career on finding a strategy for success in Iraq when just about everyone else in Washington was ready to give up. We think that he, too, might make a pretty good president.
But the stress of a campaign can reveal some essential truths, and the picture of Mr. McCain that emerged this year is far from reassuring. To pass his party's tax-cut litmus test, he jettisoned his commitment to balanced budgets. He hasn't come up with a coherent agenda, and at times he has seemed rash and impulsive. And we find no way to square his professed passion for America's national security with his choice of a running mate who, no matter what her other strengths, is not prepared to be commander in chief.
ANY PRESIDENTIAL vote is a gamble, and Mr. Obama's résumé is undoubtedly thin. We had hoped, throughout this long campaign, to see more evidence that Mr. Obama might stand up to Democratic orthodoxy and end, as he said in his announcement speech, "our chronic avoidance of tough decisions."
But Mr. Obama's temperament is unlike anything we've seen on the national stage in many years. He is deliberate but not indecisive; eloquent but a master of substance and detail; preternaturally confident but eager to hear opposing points of view. He has inspired millions of voters of diverse ages and races, no small thing in our often divided and cynical country. We think he is the right man for a perilous moment.